Assalamu Alaykum

On Pre (and post) Marriage Expectations ...

A person not in contact with internal sources of energy has to search for outside sources, believing that fulfillment can come only from someone else. This is the implicitly remembered state of the infant hungry for emotional nourishment, lacking the capacity to satisfy his own needs and having to look for the parent.

The demand place on the partner in the love relationship is that he or she - the other - fills the emptiness within oneself. But such nourishment is found only through psychological and spiritual growth, through self-discovery, through connection with the Divine.

So long as one expects another person to provide what s/he is lacking in her/himself, s/he is bound to be disappointed.

Salam
Ahmad